A child’s good manners reflect, unfortunately, on its parents, their personal culture and social consciousness. Probably more than once your neighbours or someone from your family were offended by your child, when it didn’t even muster a simple “good morning”, although you’ve known them for years. It is worse when a little one like this can’t apologise, ask nicely for something or thank someone. This ability has to be reinforced by the parents early otherwise the child will receive hard life lessons in kindergarten and/or at school. They will not tolerate anything like this. Here some tips for child care and teaching kids good manners.
“Please” opens all the doors
It would appear the word “please” will be natural for the child to use, just like their name. Here again, unfortunately, it turns out that many parents forgets about teaching it to their child, instead they allow their child to stomp in anger and have tantrums to force their parents or others do something for them. To avoid behaviours like that, teaching your child the the word “please” has big power. This is an absolute fundamental to all communication with the world. Teach your child to ask nicely not just in your house but also in the shop, while visiting grandparents, doctors and in kindergarten.
A little child saying thanking someone is a very cute picture. Surely a child, seeing the adult’s reaction to its gratitude, will quickly realise that those words make life much easier. It will discover that it is good to express gratitude because it can gain much more than when not saying thank you.
“Sorry” – hard word
“Sorry” is a word which has to be taught to a child from the very beginning. The child has to know the importance of this word and understand that it has to say it in situation where it did something wrong, hurt someone’s feelings or damaged something, even by accident. Teaching a child to use the word “sorry” is not easy, it requires a parent explaining the use of the word in different situations and contexts. Additionally – the child, a natural egoist, can struggle with apologising. As a parent you can’t give in if you want it to be happy in the future.
The child sometimes forgets to say “good morning” simply because it is absorbed by something else. It came to a new place, noticed something that drew its attention. Then the parent has to react, remind the child that it forgot about something. Many parents would ask “What do we say?” – this gets a nearly instant automatic reaction of “good morning”.
Author: Bien Magazine