We wrote about many aspects of toxic relationships – how to identify them, how do people who are in such relationships feel, etc. This time, we wish to take a closer look at the emotions of people who wish to break free from a toxic relationship. Ending such a relation is very difficult. Some people are so afraid of being alone that they prefer to remain even in the worst relationship. Therefore, it's worth analysing your own emotions, as well as to learn the internal steps required for setting yourself free. Otherwise, you're in for a miserable life. You also can't count on the problem to solve itself, because it won't. Women's magazines advise.
Ask yourself a few crucial questions
Once you decide to change your life, you need to ask yourself a few significant questions. The first question is – what does your partner give to you and is he or she capable of fulfilling your needs?
Secondly, ask yourself who taught you to be subordinate?
You must be brutally honest with yourself. Otherwise, this won't do you any good.
Benefits of ending a toxic relationship
The second stage demands your answers to be as honest as in the first one. Ask yourself about advantages of ending your toxic relationship. Think about the things mentioned below.
By ending a toxic relationship:
- you'll gain a feeling of being an independent person that can decide about their own life,
- you'll become aware that nobody has the right to tell you what to do, or what to think,
- you'll abandon your fears of being alone, because life is really interesting, once you learn to be independent again,
- you'll learn that to live is not to suffer, but to be happy, to love and to be loved.
First step towards freedom
Unfortunately, ending a toxic relationship is a difficult, as well as a stressful process. This requires plenty of internal strength. If you feel you can't handle this on your own, you should seek the help of a psychologist.
It's vital to change your current beliefs and habits. You need to learn to be happy. Try imagining your new, positive life and live it inside your head. Create a detailed picture of your better future and keep coming back there. You'll see for yourself how much energy and courage this can give you.
Another thing you must keep in mind – this is a road of no return. Once you decide to take it, there's no going back. Don't trust your oppressor. They will do anything to keep you by their side and show you how much they have changed. You mustn't believe them. This is just a trick that will make you their victim again.
Author: Bien Magazine